Friends are for help when you need to and I was a big help in a difficult period . Over time , given that it was only , to make every night a very long phone calls over two hours , after which I felt completely exhausted . My husband told me that this friendship is to consume beyond my possibilities , but not heard . But as time and months passed, I began to worry about the behavior of Deborah but impossible and I was powerless to help him. She meanwhile had begun to drink alcohol and often call up to tell me that not remember what had happened the night before . Then began to go through the clubs , to meet with young men and to be associated with them for a short time . One morning to take the phone and tells us terrified that her bed was a young man , whom she did not even know at all .I was worried that more and continue to tell my mikeshes that she needed the help of a professional. It did while trying to stop drinking themselves for three weeks and not put alcohol in the mouth , but it did not last long and returned to the old habit of long calls and cries . I felt that while the exhaust is to support forces . For a long time , we had shared a long friendship . Had many points in common , but we finally see that we are taking different paths . I felt tired and looked like every night , through calls to her , you had to swallow the events of the day that I was in increasingly stomach . One day my husband said to me : This is making you exceed the dimensions of friendship . Your friend is interfering in our lives . I knew that Nick was right , but I felt that we could not just let mikeshen clay , because I thought that everything else would have been unjust and unfair . And therefore calls followed each other day after day and I started to feel guilt and for my husband. Of course this situation is not never threatened our marriage , but it caused a great strain . Deborah night said that he wanted to be left with the burden of a casual relationship with young boys he met through nightclubs. It was night when I decided to end the friendship I had with him. I told her that she destroy herself and that can not continue with a friendship that only I ate and that above all is to undermine marriage . Since that night I started to not respond with phone calls and so Deborah took several months . So , finally , Deborah sent me an e- mail , in which the reasons wrote her behavior . During the months that had not been related , I felt calmer , although many lacked the friendship . Our relationship had an end due to various paths followed in life and different perspectives that we had for life . What I learned from this long friendship was that , even though we like to think that our friends will always be there for us, to the end of life , sometimes we have to leave to escape , however the fact that a such teeth can over us .